Millennial Mamas: Parenting in the New Generation

An Interview with Jessica Wise

As we come off a very different kind of Mother’s Day, Audacity wanted to take a moment to catch up with moms in our generation. Now that we’re in our twenties and thirties, more of us are becoming moms with our own ideas on how to raise kids. Meet Taylor Tousana, owner of the women’s empowerment lifestyle brand Pussy Power. In the aftermath of her first Mother’s Day, Taylor gives the millennial mama’s perspective on being a parent and boss.

What would you say is similar or different about being a mom in 2020?

I’m not really sure because this is my first time being a mom, but I think the main difference is that technology will be a part of your child’s upbringing. It’s everywhere and I’ve done my best to avoid it for the first 6 months. But I think as my daughter gets older, I’ll find healthy ways to incorporate screen time. 

Does social media complicate parenting for you? Do you feel pressure to post or not post your daughter?

I am definitely against posting my child for now. People are cruel, and it sort of makes me uncomfortable that I can’t ask my daughter’s consent. She is beautiful, but I prefer to share photos of her privately.

You own a business as well, a media platform called Pussy Power. Has becoming a mother changed the way you handle your business?

Definitely! I have to be on a tighter schedule. Actually setting an agenda for the day and scheduling calls days in advance. I used to go with the flow, take calls as they come and just work when I felt like it. Now I have to plan that time. It helps to have a supportive partner. I’m blessed. 

Your business is an excellent platform for empowering black women who embraced their sexuality and divine feminity. Do you consider yourself a black feminist?

I’ve been called that. I try to let my brand speak through me. I want to be an ally to all marginalized people. Sexuality is not our main focus, but if that is what makes an individual feel empowered, then more power to them. Everything I am and the people I care about fuel my mission. My brand is about empowering anyone femme. 

What are some “traditional” aspects of parenting you’re looking to continue, and what are some “new age” methods you are considering adopting?

I just want my child to know that she is loved so that she can move through life with intention. I definitely won’t be punishing her traditionally. Spankings weren’t effective on me, and I hope we can talk through her emotions and get to the root of any action she takes without consideration. That way she can truly learn from her mistakes. I do believe in consequences, but those come naturally. 

What generational curses are you looking to break for the better of your child?

I like to refer to them as generational cycles. I have broken many myself and I plan to continue that. One particular thing I want is for my daughter to be able to communicate her emotions and not hold everything in. 

What type of guidance do you seek from Gen Xer or boomer moms?

Ummmm I don’t intentionally seek guidance, but I guess it’s given as I have natural conversation with my family. I’m just happy they are around to be in my child’s life. 

What’s something you want other millennials to know about becoming a parent?

It’s hard and you can not be selfish. Please read up on it as much as possible. You got this and you are so capable. Do not be afraid to ask for help. It’s worth it!

Learn more about Taylor, and how Pussy Power is empowering women and embracing intersectional values everyday!

Website: ppowerworldwide.com

IG: @puss.ypower